'LOVE 'is all we give

Hi All,

Today topic is going to be a great one because we are gonna discuss about making babies smart. As parents what  are we gonna do to shape our kid's brain.Isn't it interesting?Here I am not only going to throw out my opinions I did some googling on it and collected some facts to make this post more precise.

Every parents love to see their child as a smart one with good knowledge, but does knowledge alone makes our child smart and discipline? Does it helps her to survive in this fast moving world?Absolutely not.

I Know it is difficult for our culture to take babyhood seriously. We are so focused on cognitivelearning and achieving and earning that we neglect the importance of emotional skills. Emotional skills are rooted in the earliest relationships. I want more people to realise that the way we look after our babies is really important work.

Please never misguide your children by making them believe cognitive skills are only vital.Life is more than that.We should give our child a better character and habits to survive here,that is what i gonna concentrate in this post.

First tell me does anyone believe that pure LOVE is the only thing going to do this little miracle?Yes guys love is something very important in a baby's life.

You all wonder,why loving and being responsive to your baby is important:

Loving, touching and responding to your baby’s signals help your baby’s nervous system to mature without being overstressed.  Your love makes a baby feel secure so she can be unhampered in developing her brain in other ways.You help give your baby a healthy immune systemYou contribute to your baby’s robust stress response.You are helping to build up your baby’s prefrontal cortex and her ability to hold information in mind, to reflect on feelings, to hold back impulses and be well-adjusted in her social relationships in the future.  The early stage of a baby life is the main phase where our child starts setting their personality and character.The orbitofrontal cortex develops almost entirely after the baby is born, and does not mature until toddlerhood.Lots of positive experiences as a baby, such as being smiled at and cuddled produce brains with more neuronal connections, and this produces a smart brain.

Many parents are bumbled on bonding  with babies,i guess u may try these below if it helps.

Handle her a lot, interact with her, establish eye contact and communicate with your eyes.  Make her feel secure and that you are always there when she needs you.Be sensitive to your baby’s changing mood and states, and respond to these.Teach your baby to differentiate range of feelings like anger, annoyance and irritation by engaging in baby talk and mirroring her feelings so she can learn about what she is going through.Be patient with your baby when she is crying.  Do not shout at her.  Be calm and reassure her that everything is okay. Breastfeed. This is one activity where baby feels at peace and loved.  This activity soothes the mother too.Lovingly play with your baby.If you have to put your kid in childcare, make sure that the caregiver really pays attention to the child.  It is the kind of care that counts more than who gives the caring.

I just dont want to stop my post by mentioning the pros alone so kids who are unfortunate to be loved by their parents have a greater impact.

All kinds of negative early experience—starting with having a stressed-out mother during pregnancy, and including harshness, shouting, hitting, leaving the baby to cry, humiliating or ignoring the child, and separation from the parent—generate stresshormones in the infant. Chronically high levels of the stress hormone cortisol during this period of dependent babyhood can have lasting effects on the rapidly developing nervous system. Everyone’s story is different and unique to them, but stressful and unhappy early love relationships do shape the brain. For example, if you grow up aroundanger or violence, your brain becomes more sensitive and reactive to threat; some children so exposed will grow up to behave in antisocial ways themselves. If you have faced early separation from loved ones, or have been ignored by a depressed mother, for example, your brain may be hyper-reactive to stress, which can predispose to depression in adulthood. Very unpredictable or frightening parenting early in life has been linked with adult personality disorders.

So my dear parents its an eyeopener, please do brace urself and just show your love.They are all your kids just expecting the pure unconditional love.

Thanks folks for stopping by here a minute to read this post,just call your kids and start pouring your love and cuddle ur kids- They really need it.Meet you in the next post nothing but its ALL ABOUT BABIES.

Being a Father

 Hi Dads,

What you all exclaimed!yes you guessed it right.This blog is exclusively for the dads who is being in the phase of bonding or trying to bond with your kids.

Daddy has such an important role in their child’s life. Most fathers do not know where to start. Mothers usually feel the maternal bond immediately, but what about dad? The baby is finally, in a sense, real to them so its time to brace up yourselves and get ready for a lovely journey called fatherhood.

Onething all dads have to understand here is paternal bonding is not the one which starts once the baby is born.Actually it starts when your baby is in womb. According to the studies, ultrasound can play an important role for a  paternal bond. Talking, singing, touching mother’s belly also help for a father to create a bond with a baby.

You know a fetus can hear sounds at their 16th week of pregnancy.Isn't awesome dads?I see here a great opportunity  to bond with the kids by talking lot to them.And this worked in my life too...My daughter started recognzing her dad's voice when she was in the womb itself.

But bonding with baby during pregnancy alone will not pave a way for lifelong fatherhood trip.It has other phases so dads have to be ready to take on those upcoming responsibilities as a dad.
Obviously the next phase starts right after the birth. It depends on how much father is involved into the labor,whole pregnancy process and post pregnancy.

Start building a rapport with your newborn.Fathers are often bumbling, when caring for newborns. Fathers are sometimes considered secondhand nurturers, nurturing the mother as she nurtures the baby. That’s only half the story. Fathers have their own unique way of relating to babies, and babies thrive on this difference.They can feel you as like their moms.only thing is it takes time so dont expect it too fast or get disappointed too soon.Spend time with them,help them in changing diapers,sing some songs,make weird noises and faces they might enjoy it.Most importantly try calm your baby when they cry,try them to put asleep when they feel cranky these all some tips to workout to be a better dad.Actually it also helps mom too.

Recent studies have suggested that children whose fathers are actively involved with them from birth are more likely to be emotionally secure, confident in exploring their surroundings, have better social connections with peers as they grow older, are less likely to get in trouble at home and at school, and are less likely to use drugs and alcohol. Children with fathers who are nurturing, involved, and playful also turn out to have higher IQs and better linguistic and cognitive capacities.

The next important phase bit longer phase that starts once your baby is on his own like playing ,eating stuffs like that.Babies always love to be heard by their parents.So talk a lot.As we all know men are more "rough and tumble" with their toddlers and children, and encourage more risk-taking behaviour. "They also use a very different vocabulary with their children, often using complicated words where mothers tend to adjust their language down. This helps to broaden the child's vocabulary,"Does it sounds great?

Not only talking the way that fathers play with their children can be important as well. Fathers tend to spend more time in playful, physical activities with their children, which researchers believe helps children learn to regulate their emotions and resist the urge to act on aggressive impulses. Fathers also tend to encourage independence and achievement, in contrast to the nurturing and protective nature of mothers, both of which play an important role in a child's healthy development.

Dads you are always their hero!You set their rolemodel.So i guess by this blog you would have known how much your paternal bond is important and how does the best fatherhood have a good impact on your kids behaviour.

Paternal bonding is such a precious gift you would give them.Cuddle your kids-They really need it.Meet you all in another fantastic topic.Yeah ! No doubt its ALL ABOUT BABIES.

Art Of Parenting

Hi folks,

I like to share some thoughts about PARENTING in this blog.

First i need to keep a question here.
What is parenting?

Please take a minute and think of it.I know most of your answer was"taking care of kid's health,providing nutritious foods,good shelter,clothing, quality education and rising them with discipline.
Ofcourse these are some vital things that a kid should get.

Being a parent is really fun and satisfying in a way we can't fully imagine until we have a child and its really hardwork -more work that you can imagine until you've done it.

"Parenting is a vitally important job of raising the next generation"

To do that responsible pleasurable task most parents miss a part,you have a guess?

Yes parenting is not only looking after the child physically.Every children expect their parents to be a mental pillar-pillars that supports the child both emotionally and physically to have an impression that parents would be there whenever the child needs help.

Emotional part is mostly fulfilled by spending quality private time with your children.They just expect to be heared by you.

Many people especially some annoying neighbours gives you some free advice in parenting.Especially while we spend a lot time or keep our kids always pampered they just complaint us and advice us not to do that.Better shut off the ears for those advices.

Just believe in your instinct called parenting instinct.You are the ones who completely know about your child.If you wanna spend time just do it,play with them,kiss them a lot,cuddle them.If they expect you just spend time.Doing that way your baby would trust you a lot and start feeling secured and comfortable. They understand how concerned you are when they look for you and also she stops pretending to grab your attention.

Simply said "Our child starts respecting our feeling when we respect theirs".

Give the best parenting to your child,"CUDDLE YOUR BABY - THEY NEED IT"

Thanks guys for reading my post ,let me talk about something,yeah its All About Babies in my next blog.

God's Best Gift Ever

Hi all,

Here i am just gonna talk about babies..who are they?what are they gonna do to our lives?how does they make us feel?

Isn't very exciting to think about babies?while touching their tiny feet,while kissing their soft cheeks,while cuddling  the baby,altogether makes me feel whether i am in heaven or god just appeared before me...

Babies are the world to their parents..they are the best gift god would give us ever.

But not all the parents see their child as gift.yes babies are seen precious at the time they were born but later on days passes some expectations grow as our kids grow.what are those?parents just expect the love and affection what we show on them should be reciprocated.May be its a valid one,we do all expect this to our loved ones.

But what if this expectation ends in disappointment?That should be the actual sitution to show how good parents we are.Its my child whether she reciprocates or not i am gonna be the best mom or dad to that child....If this attitude can be seen in you...yes you can proudly say "U R THE BEST"

They are not the ones to follow our orders but yes we would give them advice to be best person in future but it should not be a compulsion to obey that.We are their parents so we should know how to make them behave good,how to teach them good habits.Never compul and make them do what you want.Its really absurd,they may be our kids but they do have their own wishes and hatred.As a parent we should understand that first.

Onething i like to share here is how does parents see their children.Babies are born to us because they want to be born for us,we were the ones expecting them to be born.So its our responsibility to take care of them and give our best.They shouldn't be seen as a person who gonna take care of us in future.But many does this mistake.Babies are god,they are like paradise in earth.

Babies trust their parents purely,what do we do in return?

Its very simple love love love your babies like anything.Find time spend with them a lot.play, fight ,love, kiss, encourage ,forgive ,talk.....These are the things they expect from us.

"We were the reason for our baby to born here not them,so be the best and make them feel the pure parenthood"

"CUDDLE YOUR BABY -THEY NEED IT"

Let me meet you all in another post.yes exactly its all about babies.